32 posts tagged “transgender”
SGGURLS' 2nd birthday
Singapore, 13th November 2009
The rain was relentless on Friday th 13th but it could not be more perfect for SGGURLS' big bash. The temperature dropped from a smouldering 31 deg C to 26 deg C. Perfect for looking and feeling glam.
The Indonesian dishes piled on the kitchen table top tantalised our senses. If the food didn't spice things up, our super emcee sure did. I was given the privilege to kick off SGGURLS' program. Though it was an easy assignment, I had struggled with it for two weeks. There was a drought in the inspiration creek. It should not be suprising since the gurls had searched for the meaning of SGGURLS' existence for two years. There I stood in my 5" heels in front of my friends, nervous like a newbie clown. Something unexpected happened when I looked around the gargantuan hall. In 35 pair of eyes, I found inspiration. I realised that they have enriched my life beyond any monies the world could offer. My mouth moved involuntarily. I started talking about the fabulous dishes that reflected the diversity of our group. That night, not only did the "T" in the lgbt celebrate but it was a night which we celebrated the enjoyment of each other's uniqueness. When my short blurb was done, I was relieved but more importantly I was speechless that I found enlightenment in the most unexpected of times.
SGGURLS' very own diva, Destynee, gave two awesome performances despite dancing with bruised ankles caused by her shoes. Still she danced her heart out. Kayla invited some of the gurls to speak of how they felt about SGGURLS. It was humbling and motivating to know that a group like SGGURLS meant so much to so many people. Adaline stepped forth and told us how SGGURLS got started. Deanna's very frank testimonial melted our hearts. Florence, Elisa, Daniel (founder of SGB) shared their insights on transgender lives. Our multi-talented Trish, who made our beautiful logo, told us said that SGGURLS had encourage her to socialise more.
The star feature of the program entailed celebrating the birthdays of two very special friends, Rebec & Hendricka. Rebec has been very supportive of SGGURLS'. We met Rebec at Cows & Coolies. She made us feel at home when there were trepidations in our hearts. Our talented mujeres bonita,Claudia, graced us with two unforgettable spanish numbers. Kayla closed off the program with lucky draws. When the official program ended, the party went into fifth gear.
A big thank you the moderators who made this happened (a big giant hug to Kayla who was the anchor woman who made this happen, Trish, Ada, Des, Deanna, Elisa, Ivys' Jr+Sr, Joy) and our friends who braved the rain to be with us.
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For more on Asia's transgenders, please visit the following sites.
China: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/chinagurls
Thailand: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/bangkoktrans
Malaysia: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/mygurlz
Singapore: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/sggurls , http://www.sgbutterfly.org
Crashing a Hen Party
11th October 2009
Singapore
I think we may have found the second chick central in Singapore. I went there to meet my gurl and girl friends for a usual Saturday powwow. Lo and behold, when I stepped into Ootique there was a sexy dance class in progress. Alex & Shirley from SDAM (www.sdam.sg) joined our Sat night drinking session. I finally got to meet Alex whom I have had only perved on his facebook. He's an awesome person in real life and looks so much better than the pics. Warren & partner joined in a little later. A quick kiss to my favorite in-house Sexologist, Dr. Martha Lee (www.eroscoaching.com), who saw to our creature comfort. Michelle, Ootique's owner (www.ootique.com) sported a new sexy blond look. Gosh, I wish I could just take these two back home with me. Once we were all settled down, we didn't get to talk too much as our heads were permanently tilted towards the the pole dancing class and the ensuing hen party. Gosh, I am so addicted to women! The bevy of women were driving me nuts. There were a couple of women in there that looked like magazine models.
In the little discussion that we had, we did firm up a few things on Halloween night. Shirley said that she will get back to me on the bulk discounts for SDAM's Halloween night. She told me that SDAM faces a big challenge on their 16th October ALTERNATION event in DXO (http://www.dxo.com.sg/index/index.aspx). Shirley said that she was confident that they will see about 80 pax but DXO, which is owned by NTUC, expects a minimum of 100 pax in order to continue making the space available to SDAM. So if anyone of you loves goth fetish art & indie music, write to Shirley (http://www.facebook.com/people/Shirley-Zhong), alex (youknowjustwho@hotmail.com) or Saito (slave@sdam.sg) or just go to their website to findout more about ALTERNATION (http://www.sdam.sg/viewtopic.php?f=2&t=441).
As for our joint SM & trans halloween night, please do check our networks.
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For more on Asia's alternative lifestyle:
Goths & more: http://www.sdam.sg , www.sdam.asia
Transgender network: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/sggurls, http://groups.yahoo.com/bangkoktrans, http://groups.yahoo.com/group/mygurlz, http://groups.yahoo.com/group/chinagurls
BDSM network: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/bdsmASIAnetwork, http://groups.yahoo.com/group/sgdomsubs, http://groups.yahoo.com/group/bdsmCHINAnetwork
Eros coaching (the only one of its kind in Singpaore): www.eroscoaching.com
Ootique: www.ootique.com
Three Nines, a birthday, a head bunny and a hen party ...
19th Sept 2009
Singapore
This Satuday I learned that sometimes last minute and no plan can be quixotic formulae for a fun filled night? It was an auspicious day with triple nines in a date, the eve of Hariraya Adilfitri and the first night after the Chinese hellgates closed. I was quite confident that things would workout eventhough it was the first time we held an SGGURLS outing in Ootique. We had to pickup a girlfriend of mine from the early SM days. She's the archetype Singapore Airlines stewardess: exotic, beautiful, cool and oh so girly.
When we arrived in Ootique, there was a hen party in progress. I was absolutely delighted to see a bunch of beautiful girls (real girls mind you), spotting strap-ons and hopping around the shop. I just can't help but grin silly at the much sexier versions of the Everready bunnies as they disappear into the horizon. We were greeted by Ootique's resident sexologist, Dr, Martha Lee (a real life qualified clinical sexologist). Mistress Cyra spotted a wicked smile when I did the introductions. I wanted to ask but I had learned not to bug a beautiful woman on her bemusements. Martha gave Mistress Cyra and slave a tour of Ootique. When we entered into the toy shop, Tiffanie and Annie were like deers caught in headlights. They were hunched a display case ogglig at battery operated devices. :-P Martha revealed that Michelle had been slowly stocking up very high quality adult toys. Ooo ... i wanted them too.
We waited patiently for our dear Trish to show. A few of us pooled our resources and send one of our dear friend on a brave mission to TCC to get an extravagant cheese cake. Our beautiful Trish finally showed up, much to our relief. The birthday celebration went in full swing. While we ate our cake and had fun, we decided to make full use of Mistress Cyra's slave. In return for crashing the on-going Hen party, we made him give the beautiful bride-to-be a foot massage that rivaled Osim.
Before more chaos and amorous activities set in, our head bunny, Kayla, called our SGGURLS' meeting to order. On the agenda were the status of the 2010 calendar project, the donor's money, the plans for the 2nd anniversary and halloween. No swords were crossed in the meeting but I can't say the same for the two duelling nymphettes swashbuckling their red hot vibrators after the meeting. I am not sure what the gurls were doing to the two poor manequines. When midnight rolled by, the gurls were itching to go to Dixie's for their round usual rounds of KTV and pool. I think the KTV and pool were not the attraction but the permission to smoke in an aircond room. As for the outcome of the meeting, I'll leave our Chairwoman to announce them.
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More on our transgurl groups and ootique, please visit the links.
Ootique: http://www.oohtique.com/information.asp
Singapore's trans groups: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/sggurls ,http://www.sgbutterfly.org
Malaysia's trans group: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/mygurlz
Bangkok's trans group: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/bangkoktrans
China's trans group: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/chinagurls
A saturday night of umbrella drinks
Singapore, 30th August 2009.
It was a nights when good friends met for a round of umbrella drinks to exchange experience about our personal trek through the bleakest economic winter. It has been tough for everyone and the tired smiles showed. The consensus is that things are improving and Singapore has been luckier than most places. There was a brief discussion of the slow pace of the Calendar 2010 project. *Choke* Well, with everyone working multiple jobs to stay afloat is not a wonder that there was miniscule progress made. It takes time, energy, patience and faith to transforms free spirited friends into a cohesive work team.
A very deep philosophical discussion cropped up. The topic revolved around dealing with personal issues and revealing the hidden half to loved ones. Adaline gave us two wise advises when it came to opening the closet: one has to consider
the consequence from the wider social circle and one's ability to take gossips in stride. There were five obvious facets to transitioning that we could conclude. Life is a journey with a start and an end. In the course of the journey, we will learn as well as educate others. Thirdly, the destination is not as important as the journey. It's like climbing up a beautiful mountain early in the morning to admire the sunrise for a few hours. Eventually we have to descent. Fourthly, we can't escape from the circle of people whom we are associated with no matter how hard we try. Lastly, how we treat others is important. The fourth and last conclusions were derived by looking at how human lives were designed: we are meant to learn and teach. The endeavor to unleash the inner student and teacher requires tremendous courage. After the dizzy round of deep discussions, the gurls went over to Dixie's for a few rounds of pool.
For more on our tgurl groups, please visit our network:
Singapore: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/sggurls
Malaysia: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/mygurlz
Bangkok/Thailand: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/bangkoktrans
China: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/chinagurls
PHOTO SHOOT #1 FOR SGGURLS CALENDAR 2010 PROJECT, 31 May 2009
Singapore, 31st May 2009
I can only tease you with the background photos. This was my first time coming to Hendrika's place and when I first set my eyes on the beautiful garden, my jaw dropped. The place is breathtaking. Honestly before going there I was scared. Yes, even for a veteran my knees were shaking. We'll be doing photo shoots out in the open like real models. We had four fabulous photographers. I never felt so grateful in my life to be living a dream with my best friends in such lush surroundings. I was privileged enough to get a sneak peak of the calendar photos. WOW! Having a pro makes s big difference. Let's just say that I am happier than a clam. Hendrika gave us an awesome space to glam up. The gurls glammed up while I did a lot of goofing around. The backdrop was just simply amazing. I believe Trish is going to get some very good quality stuff to work with when she starts putting her magical touch on our calendar.
Thank you Alex,Kayla,Zermine and Fifi for being our photographer. We're also indebted to the movers and shakers: Bobby and Ada for making sure the logistics were tight and that we were fully comfy with plenty of food/drinks. Thanks Hendrika for something that money can never buy: your heart of gold and a place that can trully be the called paradise on earth. Thank you to the models whom I won't mention until the calendar is done. They were very sporting trudging around in their heels in public.
I can't wait to see the finish product.
More about SGGURLS, Singapore's transgender social network and support group, please go to http://groups.yahoo.com/group/sggurls
Singapore: SGGURLS 11th Moderator Meeting
Singapore, 23rd May 2009
It was another sweltering night with 37 degrees heat index (30.5 degrees + 90% humidity). The gurls met up for what I thought was going to be a night of relaxation. The chairwoman, Destynee, was a task mistress. She bulldozed two tough topics on the agenda. In attendance were our dearest friends and founders of SGB (www.sgbutterfly.org) who had guided and supported us, our wisdom meister Bobby, Ada, Trish, Kayla, Destynee, Joy, Elisa, Linda, Rayne, Hendrika, Zermine and Fifi.
The thorniest topic was tabled first. Does SGGURLS needs its own website? SGGURLS had reached the limit offered by Yahoo's free group service months ago. Elisa asked a very innocent question: "what's the purpose of the website?" A debate ensued as to its purpose and contents. It was no doubt a tough and complex issue half of which had to do with SGGURLS identity. After the group is only 1.5 years old and like any teething baby, it has to find its own footing. Bobby suggested that we delay the decision on the website but keep the topic alive with ongoing discussions. Linda recommended that make this a two step decision: decide 'yes' or 'no' for the website, then form a project team collect the requirements from its members. Daniel offered his experience from running SGB. He suggested that we not focus at the number of members but rather look at actual participants. He said though there maybe 1000-2000 members, participation is less than 2%. Additionally, he proffered the mission of SGB was an education portal. Should SGGURLS embark on having its own website, the mission for the website must be clear.
The second topic was the 2010 calendar project. This was another hairy topic. I had to explain the three reasons for doing the project. The first being team work. SGGURLS has pulled off many events. They were tough but relatively straightforward projects. The calendar project would force the gurls really to look within its members and identify their best talents and use these talents to create an out-of-the-box calendar that will wow its buyers. Secondly, this calendar project challenges the notion that tgurls prefer to go stealth because they don't want to be marginalize by society. Trish and Rose brought up these valid points. In today's context, society still treats us badly. So it's better to just keep quiet, earn a living and not create any trouble. This calendar project is meant to show that trans are people who like any group if given an opportunity will accomplish incredible things. Thirdly, this calendar project is to showcase people with talent. I proffered several examples of trans glam in Asia. The photo studio for gurls in KL, Suzhou and Shenzhen do such wonderful work that it had that made many of its viewers say: "I can't believe these people are really guys". Like the transgender tiffany show, it is another milestone for the transgender to own the day.
SGGURLS 10th Moderator Meeting
Singapore, 25th April 2009
It was another hot night of 32 degrees in Singapore. I took a cab driver to find PLU cafe. The damn cabbie kept wanting to drop me off at KTV lounges. He eyed me from the rear view mirror and kept asking if I was going to work? I presume he thinks I am a KTV hostess. :-P Jeez, I must improve my dressing.
When I finally to the PLU cafe, the staff was very friendly and hospitable. However, they have a strange custom in the cafe. To get to the cosy lounge upstairs, I had to take off my heels. Waaaahhhhh.... me without my heels? Anyways I acquiesced and went up stairs. I was pleasantly surprised by PLU cafe's tatami laid back style lounge. It was love as first sight. Now I fully understand why Hendrika (also from the SDAM, SGDOMSUBS network) kept suggesting that we hold our meetings in PLU. Andrew the owner of the PLU cafe set us up well. We had an incredible comfy and cool corner with the air-conditioning just above us. He’s so thoughtful and it was heaven for us just to escape from the sweltering heat outside.
We had a fabulous night and a very eventful one. SGGURLS achieved another big milestone by electing its first ever Chairwoman, co-Chairwoman, Official Biawak (or Vice-Something ..can't really remember but I think it's got to do with vice), Secretary, Treasurer, Chief Marketing Office, Chief Event Organizer, Webmistress, Liaison Officers to the various networks. I won't tell you who the names of the officers since I won't steal the Chairwoman's and co-Chairwoman’s thunder. They'll do the announcement.
We met the beautiful Elisa for the first time. She's very sexy and her photos don’t do her justice. We really need to get a pro-photographer to do a nice portfolio for the gurls. This is where the SGGURLS 2009 Calendar project comes to the rescue. Miss Destynee Chua the chief editor outlined the overall approach for putting the calendar together. It was very exciting to hear her ideas. I really can't wait to get this thing off the ground. The gurls closed quite a lot of outstanding tasks that night. I was awed by how far the SGGURLS' team has progressed. Some of the SGGURLS' mods have really grown tremendously and have stepped up to the leadership role. The team survived the forming, storming and norming stages. They put together some very sophisticated and fun events which were like a 100 times better that last years. I will let the Chairwoman & co-chairwoman to announce these exciting events.
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Links:
PLU cafe in Singapore: http://plucafe.blogspot.com
Singapore transgender social and support network: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/sggurls
Singapore, 4th April 2009.
It was a warm night but the 31 degree celcius didn't stop the gurls from romping around town having a fabulous time eating, shopping, catching a movie "Confession of a Shopaholic", having dinner and chilling out in the hottest lesbian bar in town (TOCAME). We caught up with old friends whom we haven't seen for a very long time. Some as long as 5 months (right, Ivy?). There were a lot of hot topics that were brought forth but not before playful Nic got the SM stuff out of her blood. This was unfortunate (or would be more appropriate to say, it was fortunate) for Adaline. The gurls indulged in a little photo taking so that to remember that friends matter. One can never have too many friends. Friends help us remember the good, the fun and the silly times. There was laughter, tears and lots of goofing around.
When we were a little bit more settled, the hot topics poured out. They were Hendrika's Fetish Ball 2009 plans, SGGURLS' 2010 Calendar, Adaline's Clothes X-change party, SGB's request for SGGURLS' participation on PLU Indignation and finalisation of the Bangkok Trip next week. The topics were no doubt hot and requries a longer discussion but with the Taiwnese version of beat it blaring in the background (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jAVBpLFYW_U,) it's hard to get into in-depth discussions. We touched on the topics at a very surface level.
Some headway was made for SGGURLS' 2010 Calendar. Destynee will be our calendar's Editor in Chief, Trish our Chief Graphic Designer, Zermine & Bobby will be our photographers, and Nic will be the overall gopher. Our good friends who happened to be also the Tocame owners agreed to be one of the locales for our photoshoot.
Hendrika and Nic brainstormed for the Fetish Ball 2009. We have to merge some of our meets together and jointly do this with SDAM. The advantage is that Hendrika is also a SDAM mod.There will be a group of gurls going to Bangkok this Tuesday. If anyone still wishes to go, please contact Adaline for our SGGURLS and BANGKOKTRANS joint agenda.
Edwina, Trish and Nic discussed SG Butterfly's request for SGGURLS' participation in PLU Indignation forum. There was some concerns but overall there were most positives, then negatives.
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For more information on our groups, please visit us at:
Singapore transgender social and networking group -
SGGURLS: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/sggurls
Malaysia's transgender social and networking group -
MYGURLZ: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/mygurlz
Bangkok's transgender social and networking group -
BangkokTrans: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/bangkoktrans
BDSM social and networking groups
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/bdsmCHINAnetwork ,
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/bdsmASIAnetwork,
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/sgdomsubs
Hottest Lesbian lounte in town:
Tocame: http://www.blurbme.com/find/place.php?leId=13089
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